If you have something sincere to say, by all means say it, or email me, but I will not tolerate ridicule, which is what I got from a number of my college alma mater “connections” last time I posted for young men “Mom’s Rules for Getting the Girl”. We have six daughters, currently three teenagers, one in her early twenties and the others are 11 and 8.The comments mostly came from a Linked In group that went ballistic, but there were some on this blog too and I deleted the rudest ones. They are intelligent, talented and beautiful girls, as I’m sure yours are as well.Taking dating off the table until they are older frees up the girls to be themselves in these new situations, instead of worrying if he will ‘ask me out’ or want to ‘go steady’, or ‘go out’, or whatever the current exclusive terminology is.Friendships with the opposite sex should first be cultivated Little girls’ first experience with a member of the opposite sex is her relationship with her father.Interestingly, the negative mail I got about this topic was primarily from the very group of women who prided themselves, at least in college, in being open minded. Our girls’ dad and I believe in fiercely protecting the treasures our daughters are while they are minors, and helping them make good choices, protect themselves and choose wisely as they mature and become adults. But for now, here we go- Mom’s Dating Rules for Girls 1. Yes, I am quite serious, and it’s working out great!We see their vocation choices as uniquely theirs- and encourage them to explore all vocations- the married life, the single life and the consecrated religious life. They are by no means perfect because of course we as parents are not perfect. To the best of my knowledge, nobody feels deprived with this rule. I think the girls feel very happy where they are socially.They attend supervised dances, skating parties and the like.These social situations are healthy and normal, and encourage girls to see young men as people and friends first, not just as romantic interests.
When parents encourage sibling bonding and teach their sons to protect their sisters, they are setting the groundwork for a happy later life for them both.
Most likely early one-on-one dating will lead to heartache.
Let’s face it- there are only two options to romantic boy/girl relationships- one- they will end up in marriage. The former is far less likely to happen than the latter, especially the younger the people are who are involved.
in Catholic parent, children, Christianity, dance, dating, Family, get the girl, Important family issues, life, love, manners, parenting, Raising daughters, Relationships, Uncategorized ≈ 29 Comments (Part II begins here) Before I get started and offer some teenaged dating rules for girls, I want to say a couple things. I’ve been asked about this topic many times, when I talk to mom’s groups, in casual conversations, and in emails. I am sharing here what is now morphing into our own family’s dating rules for girls, either formally or informally.
That’s the motivation of this post- to answer the people who have asked me the question of what we do.She might end up lonely at times, but at least she won't be a doormat. Teach your daughter that "fish lips" photos are never appropriate and never attractive. Teach your daughter to value herself enough to defend herself - physically and verbally. "Boys come and go, but girlfriends are forever." Still true. Teach your daughter that having her underwear and half her ass hanging out the back of her jeans is not attracting anyone substantial nor does it make her look smart - even in the library. Teach your daughter that smart girls get further in life than slutty girls. Teach your daughter to walk away from the teen magazines. Encourage her to get out and see the world, live on her own and figure out who she is and what she wants in a partner before she settles down. Teach your daughter that there's nothing wrong with staying home on a Friday night and reading a good book, but try to get her to read more than just Chick Lit. This book really empowers women to spot danger signals.