What You Do The one thing you shouldn’t do is verbally attack the guy or start throwing out ultimatums.If he’s hesitating because he’s concerned about commitment, this approach could scare him off.Silly logic aside, I would ask any reader who has this issue the same thing I asked the woman who contacted me: are the two of you EXCLUSIVE and have you both made it clear that you are only interested in dating each other?Until the conversation happens, I would say it is fair for a guy to keep his profile up.If you have agreed to be exclusive, things are easy: you just need to ask him to take it down!If you haven’t agreed to be exclusive, I feel this is the point that the relationship would need to reach before you would be in a position of strength to ask that the profile be removed.You’ve decided to try online dating and found yourself talking to a man that seems promising.You decided to meet and on your first date things go great.
I had touched on a similar topic last year in my post my boyfriend has kept his online dating profile active.
In some cases, this could cause what he saw as a healthy, budding relationship to end abruptly.
I’ve had several readers write me they argued with the man they were dating to ask if I thought they had made the right choice.
As I discussed above, I would recommend against being aggressive or angry.
Still, these are areas you will need him to define.Moving Towards an Exclusive Relationship Assuming the “let’s be exclusive” conversation hasn’t happened, I would recommend you start to slowly but intentionally determine if he feels your relationship is headed in that direction.