Here in Medellin, you do NOT need to play that game.
Medellin nightclubs are for dancing, so it’s very easy to go up to a woman in a noisy disco, put out your hand, gesture for her to take it, and start dancing.
The “gringo effect” is the reaction a foreign guy gets from girls here in Medellin.
It is an immediate sense of curiosity that some Colombian women have upon meeting a foreigner.
Medellin women are beautiful, and word is spreading pretty much around the world. I have been dating Colombian women for over 6 years now.
So I do not have that instant “gringo effect” on them.I am actually Colombian, my family is Colombian, and more importantly (aside from my height, 6’2″) I look Colombian.I have lived my entire life, barring the past 5 years of course, in Southern California.More often than not I’m not even interested in talking to the girl; I just want to dance and have fun. Amazingly, when I do that, women are more attracted than when I start talking to them while dancing.
A certain amount of negligence after making an impression piques a woman’s interest, it is the whole psychological framework of the type of women who wants a strong man (check out this great article on Psychology Today by Gina Barreca, Ph.
Penetrating that group of friends, playing “the game” in order to get to your “target girl” is hard work, and sometimes does not work if you don’t speak Spanish well enough for her to understand.